Teenie-Hoax

Okay, I had my news-comment of the day, but here we go, I find yet another thing about which say a thing or two. (This will most likely also go into an entry in Locky the Bunny, as a lot of people with that mentality stumbles around it.) Still scrolling down the New York Times (^_^ I just mispelled it New Jerk. hihihi) I saw this article titled "A Hoax Turned Fatal Draws Anger". Well, I thought it was about something in politics, so I merrily sauntered into the article, when what do I see? but it's about some stupid teen girl who killed herself because some fake guy in the internet told her he hated her. The girl, 13, got a boyfriend, a character created by a 47 year old neighbour woman, who most likely thought of herself as Malcom's Mom, so she "avenged" her daugher after this other teen told her that they would not be friends anymore. The girl and the fake guy flirted and then the guy became mean and, after being massively attacked through the blog of the boy, she decided to hung up herself in her closet. People is mad at the woman who created the guy and want to burn her alive, so to speak. The parents of the suicidal girl threw a temper tantrum. Everybody has opinions and they are all heated about it. Now, lets clear up some things:

1. Indeed, a MOM has SHIT to do in "avenging" her kids' social life. If the girl broke her friendship with her daughter, her daughter should take the chance to deal how to deal with situations and people like that. When a friendship is broken, trust me, in any case is better broken. I have broken friendships myself, either because we no longer have common topics, or because I consider the other person or the group to be toxic. Happens all the time. Now if she felt like she wanted to give the girl a taste of her own soup, well, that's much her problem.

2. Everybody knows there are bogus people in the Internet. It happens. People create them to protect their own identities, and well, for a miriad of other reasons that concerns only to them. You can't blame this woman for creating a character and playing it according to what she feels. Everybody has the right to do so, and so does she. If the girl put her hopes on this character, much her problem. She should have grown up.

3. I have not heard that this character had forced the girl to commit suicide. If she did, it's her fault, the teens, and if you want to blame someone else, blame the parents for not coaching her properly. She was a desperate attention seeker, from what I gather, who exposed herself to rejection and/or ill attention. It was her who decided to end up her life. It was here to did it. It was not the character, nor the woman behind it. In any case, the parents should think about what kind of environment they created where their disturbed daughter prefered death to crying her heart out to them.

It's easy to blame others, but it's hard to shoulder our own mistakes, right? The teen years are not easy, and the parents should think about what they did when, knowing they had a kid who depended so much on the acceptance of others, who talked about suicide, they let it happen. Did they spent more time with their kid? Quality-time? Or sending her to the shrink was considered enough and "good parenting"? Why the kid turned to the belt and the closet instead of mom and dad? Why did she let her affect her so much? What kind of support, self-assurance she had? Did mom and dad where there everyday talking to her about how beautiful her eyes where and how she was a pretty person insider, how life has many changes, many tasks and tests that makes us better people? Did they teach her how to take criticism, that she should not mind ill words that she knew fake because what matters is what she feels, what she believes and the worth she gives to herself?

Yeah, yeah, burn the immature neighbour mom, who seems to be an aging woman stuck in teen-years, a raging person or a psychopat, but she did nothing. If it would have been not the fake character, it could have been someone else. The teen was unbalanced and set to defuse any time. So, should you stone the real kid, a real teen who would have found her clingy or hypocritical and actually say it in her face, fight with her and then have all his friends bitch at her? The boy was a bogus, but the situation was as real as any she could have run into, and evidently she had the inclination to overdramatize everything.

I have no part in this, but I stand with Ms. Lori Drew, even if I think she should do a little bit of growing and giving her kids in adoption to people who know how to be parents. Ms Lori is responsible of NOTHING regarding the death of that kid. You are pointing fingers at the wrong parents.