Today we took our friends to the Széchényi baths and the to the Royal Palace of Gödöllő. To my amazement our friends were impressed and said they were feeling a little bit bad because they didn't offer us quite a good program as the one we were offering them. Truth to be told, I honestly feel that their program and the places they took us to were simply incomparable, and that our efforts are not a match for the beauties and the dedication they showed towards us in our visit to their town.
This got me thinking about friendship and the tabs we keep in it. Actually, we continually keep tabs on our friends, and I'm very happy that the tabs we are keeping on each other are those of happiness and gratitude. These are not tabs you keep with every one, as often it happens that you have "friends" that either pester around you showing up negative tabs like "you are not paying me visits often enough", or "you forgot my birthday" or even things like "the present you gave me wasn't wrapped with enough dedication". There are also those who accumulate the negative points with us with their demands for us to accomodate to their needs and expectations while they do nothing to consider our preferences or requests. When you are keeping tabs on your friends - negative tabs - it's time to consider whether they are still your friends, or you are simply seeing them out of a habit, but one that no longer offers you any comfort.
Keep positive tabs, treasure the letters and live the joy both of receiving their kindness as well as giving it. And keep the friends that accumulate positive tabs, because after all, those are the only ones you need.
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