Things Won't Get Done By Themselves

Really, some people act like carts. There they are collecting all the stuff life throws in them, but they don't move unless someone moves them. They complain because they don't have chances in life, but they don't go out looking for them. When they look around themselves at people doing something out of their lives, then that's because they have the contacts, they sucked up to someone, whatever but they simply imagine that things actually happen without you doing any effort for them.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but things cost, for things to happen, yes, you have to make them happen. No, I'm not talking about forcing your way, but I'm talking about doing your homework, do your legwork, go the whole nine yards and aim for the results with an actual, productive, real effort, not just by complaining. Now, to be fair, often carts get a little push from friends and family. You know that, right? You have a relative or close relative, significant other or friend or colleague whom you appreciate and you'd like to see them do better. And what's family/friends/significant others for but to be there when needed, right? So you nudge them, you help them, advise them, hold their hands, listen to their problems and try to pull strings to help them. If they are sad because they have nobody, you start going mentally through all the nice, single people you know trying to think about who could you introduce them to, to help them get a date. If they are depressed, you look to carve out time from your schedule to program things to do together. If they have a lousy job or no job at all, then you keep your eyes open to find them an opportunity. If they complain about their health or body weight, you start looking out for great, healthy solutions to share with them. Dump the Friday night cocktail and instead join a Thursday Zumba class or meet at a Juice bar.

However some of these carts even take this nudge for granted and expect the nudging ones to become their motors. They won't call you, you must call them - unless it is to complain. They never take the initiative, and somehow that becomes your job. They might get bored of what you offer, but instead of going for themselves for something else, they slump down into the same emotional mud and expect you to pull them out again. Does any of these sound familiar? Well, donkey, that might mean that you have a cart attached, and that cart is heavier than you'd originally thought.

Sometimes we must really consider if it worths to be pulling a cart that's only going to tax our lives. After all, you have ONE life, and there's no point in working to arrange TWO, and not even enjoy half of yours. Get rid of the cart, donkey, and run for the wild, crazy meadows of your own life.