Again one of those "daily life" posts. This was my first day waking up at My Home. It was quite awesome that I woke up to a wonderful white, snowing day. I realized that's usually a bad thing for the people leaving here for, like forever, but for me that's like "hooray! Miracle day!". Forgive me, but I've spent a lifetime with nearly no snow unless I paid for a planeticket to go and see some... for two to four weeks.
I woke up with no alarm clock shocking me up and away from the delicious bed, and I woke in a bed I choose, on a mattress as soft as I wanted it to be. Only the covers and the pillow weren't perfect, but that's easy to solve. My boyfriend had to run out, late, to attend business, while I slowly swirled out of the bed and arranged things. As a kid of this age, after pulling my feet out of the bed, my first action was to turn on the computer and plug into the internet. Still in my sleeping gear - a tee and knickers - without make up, without brushing my hair or my teeth, and logged in.
Things still needed to be arranged, things still needed to be assigned a house to live, a shelve to live, a drawer, a corner in the apartment. The process is wonderful and delicious.
In a way this is what reflects a New Life: you don't have around the old, but from the lessons of old, you find your way around these new things. And as with a box full of books and a bookcase waiting for them to be ordered, so is life in its many other matters. In a new relationship, or a new job, and even with a new family member, you bring with yourself the experiences and lessons you've learned from previous relationships/jobs, and seek for a way to make them work, fitting to the new the old forms while also learning from the new, taking from it to enrich the warehouse of your life.
Where does the problem comes? When you either sit there expecting the new to give you everything without you putting from your side, or when you seek to enforce your old ways onto the new. This is how we find people who preech about how men are oppressive beings seeking to supress women and subject them to a patriarchal order, or people saying that all women care about is money, they are stupid and unreliable, who would go away with anyone paying them enogh money. This is also the kind of attitude of the people who says that all bosses are out there to abuse of you (even if you have had such an experience repeatedly in the past), or that women-bosses are all hags out there to make you suffer for their past sufferings.
There cases where people don't yield to the new - often said as being resistant to change or afraid of change - are not this easily recognizable. Such is the case of people with prejudices or preconcieved ideas about something. Now, don't get me wrong, we all have preconcieved ideas - that's how we navigate through our lives, by "fixing" some things so we don't have to "learn them again" in order to proceed with what's really important in our life. For instance, most of us have the preconcieved idea that people known to be criminals are not to be trusted. So we won't go letting someone previously charged with house burglary housesit for us, or a condemned rapist babysit our child. However there's people with fixed ideas about things other people don't have such a strong position about it. Cases like this are, such as ideas about secretaries being all whores, all tellers steal, all public employees are lazy, all lawyers are dishonest, all doctors seek to cut you up and all dentists try to squeeze you out of your money. And here I don't mean the jokes you normally hear about it, but the actual behaving and talking as if these ideas were a proven fact.
What can you earn from rooting into old ideas without receiving nourishment from the new? It doesn't mean you must discard the old entirely, but rather think of your experiences as a tree: with your experiences - all of them - the tree of your experiences, grows stronger and firmer roots that keep the trunk, which is your life, your present, your current status. But this trunk has branches and the branches have leaves that need light and air, and the roots themselves need water and nutrients from the Earth. Be the nutrients of the Earth books you can consult to grow deeper in your experience and knowledge, water, air and light are always the new elements that also bring with them to you more of those nutrients, and which you need to be exposed to, unfiltered, so you can grow always strong, insteand of wilting and dying.
Open up to chance, open up to the new, and keep yourself strong, don't lose your past experiences and your knowledge from site, don't cast out without reason, don't alienate yourself to the new, but don't oppose it: there's always a middle way you can take, from which you can always profit more, and from which the new can also grow.
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